Life: It Isn’t Always Sugar Candy

I’m a lover of lists, and in recent travels, I’ve been more contemplative and observant of myself and those around me. I’ve discovered much, and life isn’t always all sugar candy, but sometimes it’s just that. If my list adds even miniscule value to someone somewhere, then my efforts are greatly rewarded.

1. The dynamic between my daughter and I is changing–I’m beginning to need her more and she needs me less.

2. Complacency is not interchangeable with happiness.

3. When I had a lot of money, I had no time to enjoy spending it. Now that I have less, I relish every adventure.

4. Raging against the atrocities of the world leads to nothing but ulcers and heartache.

5. No matter how great your intentions are, there is someone waiting to undermine them.

6. Most excellent advice is unheeded no matter what you say, how loudly you say it, or how much you believe in it.

7. Family isn’t only who you share blood with, and you’re blessed if you find one person in your life to adopt.

8. Sometimes the sheep wears wolf clothing.

9. Some dreams have no significance, but some nightmares can be real.

10. Don’t turn a blind eye to situations of abuse. That’s not being nosy–that’s being a potential lifeline.

11. Jealousy is more dangerous than any shade of emotion; avoid at all costs.

12. Life is your personal garden–pull the weeds, plant the best seeds and foster growth. Prune often.

13. Be careful whose hands you crush on the ladder on your way to the top; those same hands will give you the finger on the way back down.

14. Any wisdom I’ve learned in life is the by-product of senior rants. Don’t ignore your elders.

15. Even Bobby Flay is no match for grandma’s cooking.

16. You can’t wrap your babies in bubblewrap to protect them from the world, but you can provide plenty of insulation.

17. People waste more tears on movie endings than they do on real life.

18. Religious is often synonymous with hypocrite.

19. You can’t take a single thing with you when you can go, but you will leave memories. Decide how you want to be remembered.

20. Life is unfair to every team, but there are only level playing fields in Heaven.

It isn't always sugar candy.

Life is what you make it, and there is always the sweet and sour.

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  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Thank you, Ruby, I call it my "garage talk" philosophy, because I spend time in the garage doing crafty things. Thanks for reading!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14443483710762182483 Ben

    I recognize a few of these in my own life. Complacency led me to my current situation, not happiness. I've provided plentiful advice, but I can only hope some of it sticks. Family isn't just blood, but both can cut you equally deep. Abuse is a terrible event in this world and I want to help everyone I can. They aren't always ready to listen, but I try to make sure they know I'm here anyway.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Ben, I think everyone could identify with at least a few of them–except maybe mourning over the sleeping habits of a big spoiled five-year-old ;-)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Thanks, Lisa, I appreciate you passing on the kindness as always. Take care!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01733328963361410917 KP

    You know I've seen Bobby Flay take on a few grandmas in his "Throwdown" show and totally won the match beating them at their own recipe.

  • http://www.biculturalmama.com Bicultural Mama

    Great insights…great list!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Maria (Bicultural),Thank you ;-)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    KP,Bobby Flay might win over crowds with his cooking, but nobody would ever admit to their grandma that he does it better. Thanks for dropping in!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07811745868889402980 Donna J

    Someone told me once: you can't pick your relatives, but you can choose your family. You packed so much wisdom into so few characters. Thank you.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Thank you, Donna, I've made a habit of handpicking my family since I hit my 20's. I appreciate you dropping in!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/05656922277214701273 Sayer Adams

    I'm a bit late to the party, but I love this post, especially #8.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Thanks, Sayer, it's one of my personal favorites, because it is true (#8).

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Dikma,Since I released this list, my daughter has been sneaking back into my bed once more at night. She is still becoming more independent in a way that is necessary and pulls my heartstrings.

  • http://pricelessproject.com Ruby

    I loved the post.

  • http://fishyfacedesigns.wordpress.com/ fishyfacedesigns

    Amberr,That is a great post Amberr… Go Sister… well written!Take care,Lisa

  • http://www.hotchocolatecaramelmocha.com Stesha

    Amberr, I must say this post is wonderful. I do have the urge to print it out and tape it to my bathroom mirror.Hugs and Mocha,Stesha

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Stesha, I encourage you to use this list where you see fit. Thanks for dropping by for a visit!

  • http://www.depressioniskickingmyass.com DIKMA

    I'm glad I'm not the only mom who let their little one sleep in bed with them when they were "too old"! From the time I brought my youngest home she slept with me (I was never afraid I'd roll onto her in my sleep or anything), that's what I wanted. I've gotten away from it for the most part but I still miss it. I could watch her sleep next to me for hours!I hear you on the bubble wrap. I want to spare them from everything negative in this ugly world but there's just no way…plus I realize it's not healthy and it *can* be beneficial (I think that's where street smarts come from and I don't have anything but book smarts).

  • http://www.depressioniskickingmyass.com DIKMA

    I'm glad I'm not the only mom who let their little one sleep in bed with them when they were "too old"! From the time I brought my youngest home she slept with me (I was never afraid I'd roll onto her in my sleep or anything), that's what I wanted. I've gotten away from it for the most part but I still miss it. I could watch her sleep next to me for hours!I hear you on the bubble wrap. I want to spare them from everything negative in this ugly world but there's just no way…plus I realize it's not healthy and it *can* be beneficial (I think that's where street smarts come from and I don't have anything but book smarts).

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02168972187767598077 Amberr

    Stesha, I encourage you to use this list where you see fit. Thanks for dropping by for a visit!

  • http://www.hotchocolatecaramelmocha.com Stesha

    Amberr, I must say this post is wonderful. I do have the urge to print it out and tape it to my bathroom mirror.Hugs and Mocha,Stesha

  • http://fishyfacedesigns.wordpress.com/ fishyfacedesigns

    Amberr,That is a great post Amberr… Go Sister… well written!Take care,Lisa

  • http://pricelessproject.com Ruby

    I loved the post.

  • John E.

    Sure-fire way to get me to read something is to mention ‘candy’ in the title. Great read and some great thoughts that I’m sure with stick with me.

    • Amberr Meadows

      I am so glad you enjoyed, John. I hope you’re having a great weekend!