Having A Soft Place To Land
Everyone needs a soft place to land sometimes.
I have a lovely guest post today from Brenda Lightfeather Marroy, a kind woman I am delighted to have discovered. She’s here to share a little wisdom for Thoughtful Thursday,and I really love how she has been able to create one of the most beautiful, heartfelt streams of thought. Enjoy!
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Having a soft place to land means having a place that is occupied by caring and compassionate people, who will be able to sit quietly with you and listen as you talk, or cry, or rant and rave, and withhold all judgments, all blame and shame, and all make wrong, because they know within that it’s okay to feel whatever you are feeling, and they also know how wrong and devastating it would be to make you wrong as you pour out your heart and soul, and cry your pain and sadness, and shout your anger at your mother for not being there for you, and at your children for not trusting you, and your father for abandoning you, and sob your pain because you feel deep down in your soul the hurt you felt that you left behind and buried in order to survive in a dysfunctional family that did not know how to support you or love you or give you what you needed, because they were too caught up in their own unexpressed, unseen, and unknown sense of tragedy in their souls, and because no one ever offered you a place of refuge where you knew you were loved for you, just because you were you, with no judgment about who you were, not who they thought you should be in their blindness and their total inability to see.
I finally found my soft place to land—and it’s in my own acceptance and love for all of who I am.
Brenda Lightfeather Marroy
About the author: Brenda Lightfeather Marroy is a writer, author, and blogger. You can visit her on her blog at Streams of Consciousness or on Facebook.
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Thank you, Brenda, I really appreciate you adding something a little different to my cozy space here.
Do you have a soft place to land when life becomes too difficult? Tell me in the comments.
P.S. I’m behind on comments to my faithful readers, but I’ll be by soon enough. I promise. 
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That was touching Brenda – very few things are as comforting as acceptance of ones self. Once at peace within, there isn’t anything that you can’t face! My soft place is the friends I’ve made on the social web. I’m very comfortable with myself, but I enjoy hearing other’s perspectives.
(no response required Amberr =)
Thank you Tony. It’s good to hear your declaration of comfort with yourself.
Embracing myself is a full time project and the quest of my soul. Blessings to you. Brenda
Awesome!!!! Looking for that soft place to land as well.
Hi Jill, Whether we are aware of it or not, we’re all looking for that place of acceptance for who we are. To be loved and appreciated in our authenticity is a gift. Thank you for your comment. Brenda
As mushy as it may sound, my soft place is hugging my husband. That’s all.
Hi Jen,
I enjoyed your article on the light box. My favorite is the Ode to Colorado Craft Beer. Very interesting.
I love that you find comfort in hugging your hubby. I do not find that mushy at all, in fact, I find it refreshing. Thank you for sharing that piece of your life. Brenda
Thank you Brenda & Amberr, every body needs a soft place & my soft place is my heart.
Hi Trich,
It’s good to know that you have a soft place, and you’re right, we do all need such a place. When we reach a point in our life where we’re ready to face and give a name to the sadness that lingers deep in the soul, is when we’re ready to do our healing work. Finding the courage to love and accept all of who we are is the Balm of Gilead. Blessings to you and thank you for your comment. Brenda
So beautifully written. It really touched my soul. Thank you for writing this Brenda and thank you Amberr. My soft place to land is my best friends who I’ve known for years. I can’t think of not having them in my life and their true unconditional love.
Hi Maureen,
Thank you for your kind comment. I’m with you about having best friends and not knowing what it would be like to not have them in my life. I’m fortunate to have 6 very close women friends who help to anchor my soul.
I enjoyed your wedding story, especially the part about the wedding traditions of the shadow bride & groom and the Kupang custom. Very interesting. I was touched by the sorrow of the 2 young girls who were mising their mother. Thank you for sharing your experience on your blog.
Very nice. As I read the post I couldn’t help but think about all the people in these tough economic times that don’t have that ‘soft place to land’. The evening news recently did a story on the number of homeless individuals and families in my city. It makes me stop to appreciate what I do have, the relationships, family, friends, etc.
Hi Greg,
Thank you for your comment. On christmas day my husband and I worked at our local rescue mission and spent the greater part of the day serving meals to the homeless and those who had jobs but could not afford a christmas dinner. It was an eye-opener and one of the best holidays I’ve had. It seems the number of homeless is growing and thank goodness for missions who at least give them a place to sleep and food to eat.Like you, I’m very grateful for my family, friends, home, warm blankets, good food, and clothes to wear.
I read your information about “How to Straighten Toes”.I have a little part time business where I sell a massaging insole. When I’m at a convention selling my product, I have the opportunity to see peoples feet all day because I have them sit down, take their shoes off, and try my insole. I can’t believe the number of people with bunions and hammer toes. Sounds like your product would be something many of them would want to try. Would you want to send me some business cards that I can give to people at my shows? Let me know and I’ll give you my address.
Again, thanks for your thoughtful comment. Brenda
This is beautiful and insightful. Everybody needs a soft place to land. Thanks for sharing:))
Hi Jane, Thank you for your warm comment. Best of life to you. Brenda
that is truly beautiful
Hi Sheilagh,
I read Olive’s Hero. Is this a true family story or is it fiction? Very interesting indeed.
Thank you for your comment about my blog. I appreciate all who take the time to read my words. Brenda
Brenda that was quite good. I think its true. In truth, I’ve heard that what men most want in their romances is “a soft place to land” and that means to most of them “a woman”. I thought of that as soon as I saw what your post was about. It really covered everything.
Personally, I have had years where my self acceptance was quite good and other times when it was hard – of course it is always harder when instead of hearing what one wants its negative judgments or whatever…obviously, the problem with self abuse or internalized abuse is that its impossible to get away from without causing insanity.
Hi Miriam,
Thanks for your comment.
When I receive negative judgments from others, I internally forgive them and I withdraw my presence. It’s called taking care of self and not putting myself in the line of fire. I’m still available if these people need anything, but I know the importance of not being anyone’s whipping post.
They say insanity is doing the same thing in the same way and expecting a different result. So, if you know someone has a propensity towards harshness, it makes sense to remove your presence. Being kind and gentle to self is required if we are to land in soft places.
There can’t be a better place mentally than appreciating and loving one’s self. Fantastic post!
Hi Dee,
I appreciate your lovely comment. Thank you.
Thank you for everyone for leaving such wonderful comments for Brenda. I’ll be returning the visit if you’re a blogger, too, as soon as I’m able.