Life Fast Forward–A Love Letter to my Daughter
I originally posted this on my good friend DadBlunders Blog a few months back, and with permission I decided to share it on my blog, so my readers could enjoy it, too. If you want to get in on the parenting fun, visit Aaron’s blog–you totally won’t regret spending a little time browsing his insightful post while you’re there–and request to write your own letter to your child as if they are already adults becoming first-time parents. I hope you enjoy the letter as much as I enjoyed writing it…
A Letter of Love to Ivy
To see you all grown up and now a parent, has my heart bursting with love and joy! If I’m lucky, I’m still here to witness this miracle of new life, and I’m already hatching my plans to spoil your new little bundle rotten (as it is the grandmother‘s prerogative). There are a few things I need to tell you about this new adventure you are about to embark on, and some of it might seem a little scary, but I am confident you’ll be just fine.
First, your life will never, ever be the same again. It might have taken you an hour to get ready to go somewhere before, but you’ll need to double that time now. Strollers, bottles, diaper bags, car seats and last minute diaper changes are going to become the status quo on any trip you make outside the house. Even trips to the grocery store will become more cumbersome, but the reward will usually be someone coming up to you to remark on how beautiful your baby is. This will fill you with pride, and you’ll often experience a surge of love as you think, Why, yes, my baby is precious, and he/she is all mine.
Your life will also change in different ways. You’ll never sleep too deeply again, and not just because of 2:00 AM feedings and diaper changes. Your hearing will be more finely honed, and you’ll always sleep lightly in anticipation of a cry, whimper, or any strange noise. As your child grows older, you’ll often lie in bed at night or wake up suddenly in the middle of the night working your brain and contemplating everything from your parenting abilities to the new sneakers you need to buy for school.
You’ll also have to share something that was once exclusively yours—your heart. It will belong to your child no matter how old he/she is, no matter how many battles you might have through the years, and no matter how many times they hurt your heart with the words they say (and don’t mean). You’ll marvel at just how many times your heart can break and still keep beating, but also how poignantly and deeply your heart can love. Nothing is more special than the love of a child and parent.
There will be valleys of darkness and peaks of near perfection in your relationship with your child, but as long as you make sure he/she is happy, fed, and loved, you’re doing a great job. Give affection in abundance, and there is always room for extra hugs and kisses. Never let anyone tell you how to parent, because everyone will have conflicting advice. Follow your own path of parental intuition, because it will serve you well. Nobody has the “perfect parenting” formula, and neither will you. Just do the best you can.
I know you’ll be a wonderful mother, and I’m proud of you and love you with my whole soul. Take the love I’ve given you over the years and shower your child in it. Love and strength grows more with each generation in our family, and it will only become stronger with the character I know you have. If you ever stumble, there’s nothing to fear. As your mother, I’ll always be there to help you get back on the right footing, and you’ll do the same for your child. Good luck, sweetheart.
If you could write a love letter in the future to your child as they are embarking on the parenting journey, what is the most important piece of advice you would impart? Share it in the comments!
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